“Social Media Is Messing With Your Mind—Here’s How to Take It Back”
- christin lail
- Mar 28
- 3 min read
You ever catch yourself scrolling and suddenly feel... off?
Not sad exactly. Not angry. Not even jealous.
Just that low hum of: “Why don’t I feel good?”
You close the app, but it lingers.
You try to do something productive, but now you feel kind of numb. Stuck. Behind.
That’s not a coincidence.
That’s a signal.
Social media is lowkey hijacking our mental health—and most of us don’t even realize it.
Let’s talk about it.
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The Feed Is Not Reality—But Our Brains Think It Is
When you scroll, your brain doesn’t recognize that you’re watching a highlight reel.
It thinks it’s seeing truth.
Your nervous system doesn’t know the girl who posted her baby’s perfect birthday party also cried in the shower after everyone left.
It doesn’t know the guy flexing his six-figure business feels like a fraud every night before bed.
You see curated content.
But you feel real insecurity.
Because your brain is trying to measure your real life… against someone else’s edited one.
And that’s exhausting.
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Comparison Is Quiet But Brutal
And it doesn’t always shout. Sometimes, it whispers.
You see someone hit a milestone you’ve been working toward, and suddenly your progress feels invisible.
You see a post about someone’s “perfect” partner, and you start side-eyeing yours, wondering if you’re settling.
You watch someone’s 5 a.m. gym vlog, and suddenly you feel guilty for sleeping in.
It’s wild how fast social media can spiral a perfectly good day.
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Validation Feels Good—But It’s a Slippery Slope
Let’s be honest: likes feel nice.
We’re human. We want to be seen and celebrated.
But when those dopamine hits start to feel like oxygen—when you need them to prove you’re okay—
That’s when it gets dangerous.
Because then? You start performing instead of just being.
You post the version of you that feels safest. Most likable. Least complicated.
And over time?
Even you forget who the real you is.
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So What Do We Do? Like… Actually Do?
Let’s be for real: “Just log off” isn’t always helpful.
Social media isn’t going anywhere.
Most of us use it to laugh, stay informed, feel less alone.
So instead of demonizing it, let’s learn how to use it without losing ourselves.
Here’s how:
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1. Audit Your Feed With Ruthless Compassion
Unfollow anyone who makes you feel like crap—even if they didn’t mean to.
That influencer who used to motivate you but now makes you feel like your body isn’t good enough? Mute.
That friend who only posts humble brags but never checks in on you? Unfollow.
Your peace matters more than politeness.
Now go follow people who make you feel like you.
People who remind you it’s okay to be messy, healing, tired, and still worthy.
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2. Don’t Scroll When You’re Vulnerable
Seriously. Set a boundary with yourself.
If you’re lonely, PMSing, spiraling, or doubting your worth—social media will NOT help.
That’s like going grocery shopping when you’re starving. You’re gonna make weird choices.
Instead:
Text a friend.
Step outside.
Drink some water.
Listen to a song that makes you feel like you’re floating.
Your emotions deserve better than doomscrolling.
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3. Post With Intention, Not For Approval
Ask yourself:
Am I sharing this because it feels joyful and honest? Or because I want someone to tell me I’m okay?
If it’s the second, pause. Sit with that part of you first.
Not everything needs to be content.
Some things get to be sacred.
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4. Let Yourself Be Boring Sometimes
You don’t have to be inspiring or aesthetic 24/7.
You’re allowed to have a quiet season.
You’re allowed to log off—not because something’s wrong, but because you’re tired.
And if the noise in your head is too loud, it’s okay to disappear from the apps…
and reappear in your life.
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Final Truth?
You’re not broken.
You’re just overstimulated.
You’re not lazy.
You’re not behind.
You’re not the only one drained by the thing that’s supposed to “connect” us.
You’re human.
And you’re tired.
And it makes perfect sense.
Take your power back—one unfollow, one boundary, one log-off at a time.
Not because social media is evil. But because your peace is precious.
And you deserve a life that feels good—even when no one’s watching.
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